"When hunger strikes, love flies out of the window". This powerful statement is the most common line I heard when difficulties strike in the family. This is a fact and not a joke as I have observe from people and those who venture into married life at an early age. Most of them really have difficulty going through their married life especially when they produce many kids. At first they believe that love is enough for the union. I think differently. The readiness from both side is very necessary, whether physically, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually and financially.
Physical readiness is not an indication that you should possess the 36-24-36 vital statistics so that you will look sexy wearing your best dress for a lifetime. But it is more than an outward manifestation. How are you going to make it a "happily ever" after kind of story depends on the goals you set for your marriage. One of the reasons why a husband left his wife is because she lacks something. What is that something? It can be the ability to care, to manage the household, to love, to share, and to make both of you happy in and outside of your exotic chamber. As the song of the Spice Girls goes, " Cause Tonight is the Night When Two become One" . Sexual union is the expression of how both of you love and long for each other after the hard days work. If one has a happy sexual life of course it will lead to a happy married life. That's why when I once asked a man the kind of woman he wanted to have in life he said, "someone who is hotter than me" (a wife should be hotter than her husband)..... Its a wow but maybe it can help. The comptibility of your body chemistry will matter and how both of you ignite both of your passion to keep it burning.
Being emotionally and psychologically ready is an important factor to consider. Of course married life is not after all always a happy union. Problems or shall I say challenges exist and these are things that cannot be separated in any relationship. It is always there present in order to provide both of you an avenue to renew your love for each other thus provide you a glue to make your relationship stick.
Why is it important to be spiritually ready? Of course putting God at the center of any relationship is a duty that one should not miss. This is the spiritual obligations of a Christian. When you are asked to draw a house, first you draw a triangular form, what does this imply? Triangle has three sides and three corners. If you put yourself into this context,God, you and your partner occupy the three sides/corners. He is at the center holding both of your hands. Maybe He is holding you in His left hand and your partner in His right hand. If the three of you hold each other's arms, there's is a strong bond. There's one thing so certain: God will never let go both of your hold. In a situation that you and your partner will loose its hold and if one perseveres to have it back, God is there to help both of you to be connected with each other again.
What about financial stability? Practically speaking, this is also important. This is not a fundamental gauge in success for marriage but it can provide weapon to give you comfort in life. Remove one from its readiness , I'm sure it can create burden and even more challenges in the family. This is why sometimes when hunger pangs strike in the family love flies out of the window. So you begin to wonder where love have gone?
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