"When hunger strikes, love flies out of the window". This powerful statement is the most common line I heard when difficulties strike in the family. This is a fact and not a joke as I have observe from people and those who venture into married life at an early age. Most of them really have difficulty going through their married life especially when they produce many kids. At first they believe that love is enough for the union. I think differently. The readiness from both side is very necessary, whether physically, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually and financially.
Physical readiness is not an indication that you should possess the 36-24-36 vital statistics so that you will look sexy wearing your best dress for a lifetime. But it is more than an outward manifestation. How are you going to make it a "happily ever" after kind of story depends on the goals you set for your marriage. One of the reasons why a husband left his wife is because she lacks something. What is that something? It can be the ability to care, to manage the household, to love, to share, and to make both of you happy in and outside of your exotic chamber. As the song of the Spice Girls goes, " Cause Tonight is the Night When Two become One" . Sexual union is the expression of how both of you love and long for each other after the hard days work. If one has a happy sexual life of course it will lead to a happy married life. That's why when I once asked a man the kind of woman he wanted to have in life he said, "someone who is hotter than me" (a wife should be hotter than her husband)..... Its a wow but maybe it can help. The comptibility of your body chemistry will matter and how both of you ignite both of your passion to keep it burning.
Being emotionally and psychologically ready is an important factor to consider. Of course married life is not after all always a happy union. Problems or shall I say challenges exist and these are things that cannot be separated in any relationship. It is always there present in order to provide both of you an avenue to renew your love for each other thus provide you a glue to make your relationship stick.
Why is it important to be spiritually ready? Of course putting God at the center of any relationship is a duty that one should not miss. This is the spiritual obligations of a Christian. When you are asked to draw a house, first you draw a triangular form, what does this imply? Triangle has three sides and three corners. If you put yourself into this context,God, you and your partner occupy the three sides/corners. He is at the center holding both of your hands. Maybe He is holding you in His left hand and your partner in His right hand. If the three of you hold each other's arms, there's is a strong bond. There's one thing so certain: God will never let go both of your hold. In a situation that you and your partner will loose its hold and if one perseveres to have it back, God is there to help both of you to be connected with each other again.
What about financial stability? Practically speaking, this is also important. This is not a fundamental gauge in success for marriage but it can provide weapon to give you comfort in life. Remove one from its readiness , I'm sure it can create burden and even more challenges in the family. This is why sometimes when hunger pangs strike in the family love flies out of the window. So you begin to wonder where love have gone?
Thursday, January 11, 2007
The Beauty of Life... by Juliet S
Life in the 21st century is so complicated...You cannot get all the things you always wanted. The reality of life is really devastating,sometimes frustrating and even mind breaking. But whatever it is given by God, you have to embrace the fact and make the most out of it. Things you always wanted to happen in life are not always what God has always wanted from us. He has the best design of everything though we have our own life plan and map. This is not sufficient since we cannot forsee what lies ahead for only God knows everything. He is the best anchor to cling on because He has the wisdom to iron things out.
Life has a lot of ups and downs, twists and turns, and has lot of direction and choices that you are going to take. You need to use wise judgement to decide as to what path to take and which way is the best and which is not. Either you have to use your heart over head or the other way around or even both. When you decide, you have a lot of factors to consider. You have to see if it cannot hurt other people. It can be the best way for other people or for yourself. Following what you wanted to happen in life is very difficult. It takes a lot of soul-searching before you will be able to come up with the right decision. Otherwise, it will affect other people even hurting their feelings.
Hurting others' feelings is not easy especially you have seen the effort and the kind of emotional investment that person is having, just to prove that his feelings and intentions are really true and that he is sincere with you. Those are the kind of people who are true to themselves. But how about those people who are afraid the light and always want to live in the dark? Do you think they deserve to be condemned or can we blame them? Can we say that we have to bring them in line on the firing squad and shoot them for their cowardice? They may have their own reasons. We don't have the right to judge them since we haven't had a glimpse of the kind of experiences they had gone through and what choices they wanted to have in their lives. They have also their own crossroads and may not be the same crossroads we will be crossing...
This is the beauty of life. It is as complicated more than you can imagine but with God's guidance life's journey will become an easy way thus, you will be able to surpass all the crossroads, roughroads, the curves, and blind alleys of your journey ...
Life has a lot of ups and downs, twists and turns, and has lot of direction and choices that you are going to take. You need to use wise judgement to decide as to what path to take and which way is the best and which is not. Either you have to use your heart over head or the other way around or even both. When you decide, you have a lot of factors to consider. You have to see if it cannot hurt other people. It can be the best way for other people or for yourself. Following what you wanted to happen in life is very difficult. It takes a lot of soul-searching before you will be able to come up with the right decision. Otherwise, it will affect other people even hurting their feelings.
Hurting others' feelings is not easy especially you have seen the effort and the kind of emotional investment that person is having, just to prove that his feelings and intentions are really true and that he is sincere with you. Those are the kind of people who are true to themselves. But how about those people who are afraid the light and always want to live in the dark? Do you think they deserve to be condemned or can we blame them? Can we say that we have to bring them in line on the firing squad and shoot them for their cowardice? They may have their own reasons. We don't have the right to judge them since we haven't had a glimpse of the kind of experiences they had gone through and what choices they wanted to have in their lives. They have also their own crossroads and may not be the same crossroads we will be crossing...
This is the beauty of life. It is as complicated more than you can imagine but with God's guidance life's journey will become an easy way thus, you will be able to surpass all the crossroads, roughroads, the curves, and blind alleys of your journey ...
Wednesday, January 10, 2007
Food for Your Frustrated Heart
For as long as there is tommorow, I will be here.
For as long as you need me in your life, I'll be with you.
For as long as you want me with you, I will never leave you.
Just love me and I will continue loving you...
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While waiting for the right person to come to your life,
play and have fun with the wrong one.
But be careful with who you play with because that person
might be the one for you...
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Its better to lose your pride to someone you love than to lose your love because of your pride.
Be brave to fight for it and face it before you will realize what a great lose you had.
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In times of darkness love sees.
In times of silence love hears.
In times of doubts love hopes.
In times of sorrows love heals.
In old times love remembers...
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There's only one thing in this world worth taking,
its the risk of getting hurt when you fall in love
cause the joy of being in love is worth all the pain...
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You learn to like someone when you found out
what makes them laugh.
But you can never truly love someone until you found out
what makes them cry.....
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Love 'till it hurts and when it hurts, love some more.
And when it hurts some more, love even more.
And when it hurts even more, love 'till it hurts no more...
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Love is giving people due space
to be exactly who they are
and who they are not...
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True love is when you are asked how long you have known him.
Your response would be in your heart,
you've known him for a lifetime, it just took too long to find him...
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If I couldn't spend every second of my life beside you;
then I would rather waste every second of it,
looking at you from the sky than be with someone else
but still dreaming of you....
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No thoughts can hurt as much as the thought
of the love that could have been.
And no love can hurt as much
as the love that can never be...
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Love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person...
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All of us has an ideal perfect MR. RIGHT.
But we often end up with someone totally
opposite but still very much perfect for us...
For as long as you need me in your life, I'll be with you.
For as long as you want me with you, I will never leave you.
Just love me and I will continue loving you...
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While waiting for the right person to come to your life,
play and have fun with the wrong one.
But be careful with who you play with because that person
might be the one for you...
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Its better to lose your pride to someone you love than to lose your love because of your pride.
Be brave to fight for it and face it before you will realize what a great lose you had.
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In times of darkness love sees.
In times of silence love hears.
In times of doubts love hopes.
In times of sorrows love heals.
In old times love remembers...
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There's only one thing in this world worth taking,
its the risk of getting hurt when you fall in love
cause the joy of being in love is worth all the pain...
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You learn to like someone when you found out
what makes them laugh.
But you can never truly love someone until you found out
what makes them cry.....
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Love 'till it hurts and when it hurts, love some more.
And when it hurts some more, love even more.
And when it hurts even more, love 'till it hurts no more...
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Love is giving people due space
to be exactly who they are
and who they are not...
::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::
True love is when you are asked how long you have known him.
Your response would be in your heart,
you've known him for a lifetime, it just took too long to find him...
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If I couldn't spend every second of my life beside you;
then I would rather waste every second of it,
looking at you from the sky than be with someone else
but still dreaming of you....
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No thoughts can hurt as much as the thought
of the love that could have been.
And no love can hurt as much
as the love that can never be...
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Love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person...
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All of us has an ideal perfect MR. RIGHT.
But we often end up with someone totally
opposite but still very much perfect for us...
Monday, January 8, 2007
CORNY Corner: Laughter is free
The following are just a collection of article that could tickle your emotion...its free to smile so if you feel like don't stop yourself...
*NEWFLASH!!! Three smart monkeys on the loose..
No. 1 was found in the library;
No. 2 was found using the computer; and luckily
No. 3 was caught browsing this site....(smile)
* What is a kiss?
Its an uptown shopping for a downtown business.
Kiss is an upper persuasion for a lower invasion...
* Don't forget the two most important things to do when when you wake up:
1. Pray so that you may live and
2. Brush your teeth so that others may live too!!!!
* Please don't send me cheap messages cause I come from a rich family...
My parents are in the steel and iron industry...My mom irons and my dad steals...
* Three Stages of Life:
First, when you have time and energy but no money.
Second, when you have the money and energy but no time.
Third, when have all the time and money but no energy!!!hmmmmmmmm
* What are the symbolic bird?
For peace........... Dove
for birth............ Stork
for love ...........Love birds
for aggression .......... Eagle
for death ................Vulture
for knowledge........Owl and
for Birth Control............its Swallow....(smile)
* Survey present the result on what married men do after love making..
Result reveals that:
10 % turn to their side and sleep
10 % go to the CR and
80 % put on their clothes and go home to thier wife!!! wowwwwwwwww
Hope you enjoy reading these...SMILE...
*NEWFLASH!!! Three smart monkeys on the loose..
No. 1 was found in the library;
No. 2 was found using the computer; and luckily
No. 3 was caught browsing this site....(smile)
* What is a kiss?
Its an uptown shopping for a downtown business.
Kiss is an upper persuasion for a lower invasion...
* Don't forget the two most important things to do when when you wake up:
1. Pray so that you may live and
2. Brush your teeth so that others may live too!!!!
* Please don't send me cheap messages cause I come from a rich family...
My parents are in the steel and iron industry...My mom irons and my dad steals...
* Three Stages of Life:
First, when you have time and energy but no money.
Second, when you have the money and energy but no time.
Third, when have all the time and money but no energy!!!hmmmmmmmm
* What are the symbolic bird?
For peace........... Dove
for birth............ Stork
for love ...........Love birds
for aggression .......... Eagle
for death ................Vulture
for knowledge........Owl and
for Birth Control............its Swallow....(smile)
* Survey present the result on what married men do after love making..
Result reveals that:
10 % turn to their side and sleep
10 % go to the CR and
80 % put on their clothes and go home to thier wife!!! wowwwwwwwww
Hope you enjoy reading these...SMILE...
The Bend in the Road by Helen Steiner Rice
Sometimes we come to life's crossroads,
And we view what we think is the end,
But God has a wider version,
And He knows its only a bend-
The road will go on and get smoother,
And after we've stopped for a rest,
The path that lies hidden beyond us,
Is often the path that is best.
So rest and relax and grow stronger,
Let go and let God share your load,
And have faith in the brighter tommorow,
You've just come to the bend in the road.
And we view what we think is the end,
But God has a wider version,
And He knows its only a bend-
The road will go on and get smoother,
And after we've stopped for a rest,
The path that lies hidden beyond us,
Is often the path that is best.
So rest and relax and grow stronger,
Let go and let God share your load,
And have faith in the brighter tommorow,
You've just come to the bend in the road.
How to Find Happiness by Helen Steiner Rice
Happiness is something you create in your mind;
Not something you search forbut can't seem to find;
Not something that's purchased with silver or gold;
Not something that force can capture and hold.
It's just waking up and beginning each day;
By counting your blessing and kneeling to pray;
It's giving up thoughts that breed discontent;
And accepting what comes as a gift heaven-sent.
It's giving up and wishing for things you have not;
And making the best of whatever you've got;
Its knowing that life is determined and planned;
And God's holds the world in the palm of HIS hand.
And its by completing that God gives you to do;
That you find contentment and happiness too.
Not something you search forbut can't seem to find;
Not something that's purchased with silver or gold;
Not something that force can capture and hold.
It's just waking up and beginning each day;
By counting your blessing and kneeling to pray;
It's giving up thoughts that breed discontent;
And accepting what comes as a gift heaven-sent.
It's giving up and wishing for things you have not;
And making the best of whatever you've got;
Its knowing that life is determined and planned;
And God's holds the world in the palm of HIS hand.
And its by completing that God gives you to do;
That you find contentment and happiness too.
Those Creatures Called Women by Anonymous
If you're well dressed, she thinks you're a playboy;
If you're not, she thinks you're rugged.
If you kiss her, you're not a gentleman;
If you don't, you're not a man.
If you're praising her, she thinks you're lying;
If you don't, you're good for nothing.
If you agree with all her likes, she is abusing;
If you don't, you're not understanding.
If you make romance, you're an experienced man;
If you don't , you're a half man.
If you vist her often, she thinks its boring;
If you don't, she accuses you of double crossing.
If you're a minute late, she complaints its hard to wait;
If you come on time for hours, she makes you wait.
If you propose love within brief acquaintances, you're a fresh guy;
If you postpone it 'till late, she wonders why.
If you fail to assist her in crossing the street, you lack ethics;
If you do, she thinks its just a man's tactics.
If you're jealous, she says its bad;
If you're not, she doubts your love and doesn't like it.
If you attempt romance, she says you don't respect her;
If you don't, she thinks you don't like her.
If you listen, she wants you to talk;
If talk, she wants you to listen.
If you contradict her, she does not like it;
If you don't, she thinks you're gullible.
Oh! women...so simple...yet so complex
Sooo confusing..and yet so desirable...
If you're not, she thinks you're rugged.
If you kiss her, you're not a gentleman;
If you don't, you're not a man.
If you're praising her, she thinks you're lying;
If you don't, you're good for nothing.
If you agree with all her likes, she is abusing;
If you don't, you're not understanding.
If you make romance, you're an experienced man;
If you don't , you're a half man.
If you vist her often, she thinks its boring;
If you don't, she accuses you of double crossing.
If you're a minute late, she complaints its hard to wait;
If you come on time for hours, she makes you wait.
If you propose love within brief acquaintances, you're a fresh guy;
If you postpone it 'till late, she wonders why.
If you fail to assist her in crossing the street, you lack ethics;
If you do, she thinks its just a man's tactics.
If you're jealous, she says its bad;
If you're not, she doubts your love and doesn't like it.
If you attempt romance, she says you don't respect her;
If you don't, she thinks you don't like her.
If you listen, she wants you to talk;
If talk, she wants you to listen.
If you contradict her, she does not like it;
If you don't, she thinks you're gullible.
Oh! women...so simple...yet so complex
Sooo confusing..and yet so desirable...
A Heart Warming Love Quotes
The following are the collection of quotations and sayings coming from books, text messages, poems, magazines compiled in a scrap book and now posted in this site...Enjoy reading...
* We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by finding an imperfect person perfectly...
* The first duty of love is to LISTEN...
* No man is worth crying for. But if he is he won't make you cry...
* Love isn't about finding the right person but creating the right relationship; what matters isn't how much love there is at the beginning but how much you can build...
* If you think you that you are losing someone, never be afraid because if that person does love you a lot, he/she will take the risk to have you again...
* Never rush in love for love never runs out. Let love be the one to knock at your door.. Besides true love is worth waiting...
* Don't let doubts lose the magic of love because its not everyday that you meet the right person who has the magic to make you fall in love...
* Think and take time to listen to your heart. Sometimes you need not ask yourself who you love more but ask who really makes you feel loved...
* It drives you crazy, it makes you mad, it makes you jealous, it makes you sad, it causes sleepless nights, it even breaks your heart, come to think of it...is it healthy to fall in love?...
* Love comes to those who still hope eventhough they've disappointed, to those who still believe eventhough they've been betrayed, to those who love eventhough they've been hurt before...
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* We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by finding an imperfect person perfectly...
* The first duty of love is to LISTEN...
* No man is worth crying for. But if he is he won't make you cry...
* Love isn't about finding the right person but creating the right relationship; what matters isn't how much love there is at the beginning but how much you can build...
* If you think you that you are losing someone, never be afraid because if that person does love you a lot, he/she will take the risk to have you again...
* Never rush in love for love never runs out. Let love be the one to knock at your door.. Besides true love is worth waiting...
* Don't let doubts lose the magic of love because its not everyday that you meet the right person who has the magic to make you fall in love...
* Think and take time to listen to your heart. Sometimes you need not ask yourself who you love more but ask who really makes you feel loved...
* It drives you crazy, it makes you mad, it makes you jealous, it makes you sad, it causes sleepless nights, it even breaks your heart, come to think of it...is it healthy to fall in love?...
* Love comes to those who still hope eventhough they've disappointed, to those who still believe eventhough they've been betrayed, to those who love eventhough they've been hurt before...
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